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Mar 10

Deeper is better?

A recent blog post on the NY Times talks about a new study that shows people who engage in deeper, more substantive conversations are happier than those who mostly engage in small talk.

But, he (the researcher) proposed, substantive conversation seemed to hold the key to happiness for two main reasons: both because human beings are driven to find and create meaning in their lives, and because we are social animals who want and need to connect with other people.

I have spent a considerable portion of my life wondering how things would be if I could keep things more on the surface…stop questioning so much, stop searching so much, stop feeling so much.  In many ways society encourages people to keep things on the surface and frowns on the deeper connection.  I’m not sure if I’m happier (what is happy anyway?) because of the deeper connections, but I do think I’m more fulfilled and present because I am not pushing down these basic instincts.

What would be possible if there were more connection, real connection, between human beings?   Where are you on the conversation spectrum?

To read the NY Times article, click here.