Nov 10

Self Profile II

I had just finished doing my personal profile the other day when a friend busted me!  He wrote to say he really liked my blog and also that he liked that I changed “challenges” to “weaknesses” in my version of the profile.  Oops, I hadn’t even noticed!  And that got me thinking about semantics.

Is it a “problem” or an “issue”?  Is it a “challenge” or is it a “weakness”?  And does it matter?  My short answer and I don’t think there is a one-size-fits-all answer.  But I do understand my friend’s reaction to this kind of positive speak.  It can go too far and I am certainly not one to beat around the bush.  Ultimately, they are only words and it’s what you feel inside that matters.  Does “weakness” feel bad and insurmountable?  Then change it to challenge.  But maybe ask yourself why the word weakness gets to you.

Anyway, as I did my own profile (posted here in all its glory…click on image to make it bigger), I noticed a few interesting things.  First, I don’t like cut and paste!  And clearly I’m not good at it.  In fourth grade I’m sure I would have done a better job, but now it’s really about what I’m learning and not how it looks (clearly).

Second, as I was cutting out the statements, I felt like, wow, these are all going to go in the middle…they have elements of strengths, but also elements of weakness.  I can do it sometimes, but not always.  Or it works for me and against me at the same time.  My mid-section was going to be crowded.

The third thing I noticed is that I didn’t have many things in my “weaknesses/challenges” circle and my “strengths” circle was pretty crowded…and that made me uncomfortable.  I thought, if I share this it sort of feels like I’m bragging (and I only really do that when I play Scrabble with certain friends).  Or maybe I just didn’t put down things that I’m not good at.  Or maybe I’m lying to myself.  But then I noticed one of the things I did put in the weakness circle,  “Celebrating my successes” and I thought, yeah, that’s hard for me.  And having a pretty empty “weakness” circle is a success for me.  Not too long ago, my profile would have looked quite different.  And even longer back it would have looked very different.  So I’m going to take a risk and celebrate the success that I’ve figured a lot of things out in my life.  And the crowded mid-section shows I still have lots to learn!

If anyone out there did one of these, I’d love to see it.   And if you haven’t, do it!